For everything out there there’s a fetish that gets off on it, from innocent fluffy handcuffs to the less innocent fluffy sheep and everything in between.
In this article we shall explore some of the more popular fetishes, and a couple of slightly less common ones!
SCHOOL GIRLS
A lot of people find this very popular fetish a little disturbing as the paedo-panic reaches an all time high, leading fans to feel a great sense of guilt… but should they?
Obviously if you’re scouring the streets for ACTUAL school girls then yes you should feel very guilty (unless of course you’re an actual school boy in which case carry on…) However, if you’re searching the streets for grown women parading around in naughty school girl costumes on nights out, twirling their pigtails and sucking on lollypops suggestively then you have nothing to be ashamed of.
There is a lot of reasons for a school girl fetish. It has base routes in domination and submission. The naughty school girl in under the control of her school teacher, if he puts her in detention then she shows up. In times gone by, if he wanted to cane her then she bent over to take it. There is a lot of sexual fantasy built around domination and submission, and if the idea of your girlfriend or wife over your knee in a tartan kilt and frilly knickers whilst you spank her for being so naughty gets your juices flowing, then it’s less about the tartan kilt and more about the spanking.
So why do you need the uniform? Partly because you shouldn’t. You’re not allowed to fancy those school girls who look deceptively mature whilst still wearing their school tie and knee socks. So of course, once you’re not allowed to do something it becomes forbidden fruit. Forbidden fruit is everso much more desirable then apples off the shelf in tesco. Whilst having little or no urge to actually taste the fruit coming out of the school yard, you can make that fruit much more accessible and still incredibly arousing by having it on the grown woman in your life. You get all the exciting feelings for “naughty” and “wrong” whilst still getting the go ahead!
And finally… those uniforms (especially the ones available on www.erogenous-zone.co.uk/schoolgirlzone.html) are VERY sexy anyway! Little skirts, frilly knickers, revealing tops, regardless of the material, those garments show off your figure and all those naughty places in a very sexy way!
HANDCUFFS
Whether you like the fluffy kind shown above, or something a bit more hardcore, the appeal of handcuffs, stocks, bondage tape etc is back to domination and submission. Giving up power to your lover is incredibly seductive.
There’s the old saying that what you hate in life, you love in the bedroom. In the case of women we are gradually becoming more and more independent, more confident and more likely to loathe the idea of having our power taken away, especially by men. But put us on bedsheets behind closed doors and suddenly we’re gagging to be thrown down onto the sheets, tied up and ravaged like a wench being ravaged by an angry viking.
Could it be that we secretly long for the days where we were the meek and mild woman at home? Probably not, but there’s certainly an appeal to getting that balance from our work life where we dominate and are powerful, to the home life where we let our man ravage us with nothing we can do about it (bar a pre agreed upon safety word)
You powerful men in high pressured careers who let absolutely nobody take advantage of them in the office or during after work drinks will get off on having their partner handcuff them and do the same.
Life is all about yin and yang. If you’re high pressured and powerful in one area, you want to relinquish that for the relief of submission elsewhere.
It also leads us on to….
WHIPS
If you get off on handcuffs and restraints in general then you most likely will see the appeal of whips and paddles.
It may well not be something as ferocious as the above, perhaps a soft paddle or slightly smaller whip, but the point is, it is letting your partner take control over you.
Whether you’re enjoying some gentle play, or going for the more heavy strikes, it is very rare that both of you will be whipping at the same time, even if you both enjoy the feeling. Someone takes the dominant, whipper, role, and the other takes the submissive, whipee, role.
This also brings us to the pleasure of pain. The fundamental principles of SnM are pleasure and pain. A little pain causes the opposite pleasure. For some this can be extreme going as far as drawing blood and causing actual physical harm, but for most a little spank on the bum or some gentle nipple biting can be incredibly pleasing. Many women find having their gently pulled very erotic. If you try it during the normal day you will no doubt get a punch, but if you do it during the passionate heat of sex, it has the desired effect.
LATEX
Latex and rubber are popular materials used in kinky lingerie and clothing. The tight, figure hugging, glistening material shines like water and binds the body. It feels wonderful both for the wearer and for any hands rubbing over it across their body.
A dress like the above has a similar effect to restraints as it restricts movement.
When men or women combine a latex outfit with a whip they look intimidating and kinky and very dominant, or if you put them in something restrictive and handcuff them they are incredibly submissive and controlled.
Other popular materials for such clothing are leather, it’s tough and strong, and for this reason is usually for domination wear, but submission toys. You can look incredibly threatening and hardcore in the right leather or latex clothing!
A lot of people find the hardcore scene associated with latex a little too intense and you can see on the streets material with a similar glistening and binding effect but more accessible to the fetish shy.
MASTURBATION
Watching a woman pleasure herself is a popular internet porn search, and hearing it over the phone is something many sex lines promise! It is also a popular fantasy for a woman to touch herself and rub her clitoris during sexual intercourse. A toy like the above is perfect for this as it slips over the finger and vibrates causing intense clitorial orgasms as well as the penetrative pleasure.
So why do so many men enjoy this?
Men are well known to be very visual animals, they like to watch everything from your boobs bouncing around when you’re on top to your face contorting in pleasure when you climax. The addition of you touching yourself is more to watch.
Men masturbate. A lot. This is because many people think men need sex more than women and have a far higher sex drive, for a man to see you touching yourself suggests that you do it on your own too (preferably whilst fantasizing about him naked) and therefore you also have a high sex drive and need sex a lot (again… preferably with him)
If you’re comfortable enough to touch yourself during sex then that means you’re relaxed and trusting of him, perhaps meaning you’re open to exploring new things, perhaps meaning you would be open to suggestion of some of the fetishes previously explored!
Of course, most of these things are entirely subliminal and the main reason is that they get to watch you doing something naughty, but the other reasons are bubbling around under the surface.
There are as many fetishes out there as you can imagine and more, so please tell us yours and why!
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