I’m male, in my early 30s and live in the middle of the UK.
I’m very sexually active with my current and past girlfriends, although am not into one-night stands. And by that, I mean that I like to have lots of ‘normal’ sex, and still think we should keep somnophilia as a rare treat to spice things up!
I’d never do anything to a partner in their sleep that I know they wouldn’t consent to while conscious – that’s where the trust comes in, and I expect the same courtesy from them in return. In my case this has meant no filming and no anal sex. Maybe more on those later…
Most people would describe me as relatively normal and a fully functioning, social human. I’m not some pervy weirdo (in fact my more normal sexual tastes would certainly be classed as vanilla to most people) sitting in a basement next to my dead Mother and 36 cats. I work in a respectable job and have many active hobbies.
I’ve seen some people describe first experiences where they were felt up in their sleep (often through child abuse) and developed their somnophilia from that.
I don’t have such an experience. I’m swaying towards the belief that it’s a choice rather than what could be seen as hiding behind the protection of saying ‘X made me like this’. I honestly haven’t given this part a lot of thought, so you may well see my thoughts on this change. For now, I’m saying that I haven’t been the victim of abuse of any kind in my past, and had a fairly good upbringing with loving family.
Having said that, when I was a teenager there was a girl I was besotted with, and the closest we got to anything sexual happening between us was when we both faked sleep.
She lay on the sofa with her legs over my lap and my hands resting on the tops of her thighs. As we both pretended to be asleep she moved so that my hands moved, my fingertips now close to the intimate area I so yearned for – if only through the thin material covering her. I softly and gently traced my fingertips over her, with my heart beating so hard and loudly that I was sure she must be able to hear it. We spent an eternity like this, with her parting her legs slightly and moving her hips, before I foolishly put my arms around her, breaking the spell, and she uttered the line “I’m sorry – I can’t do this…”
That could have been the start for me. The reason. As I’ve said, I shall make no excuses for what I like – I just think the whole thing is such a huge turn-on it was like an out of body experience – and still is today!
I’ve also been know to dry hump partners in my sleep. According to them.
I have been woken up to find I’m getting a blowjob from my girlfriend – again this is something that seems to be very common, and is somnophilia – it’s just that most people haven’t got the knowledge to be able to label it as such!
Mostly, my experiences of having sex with someone whilst they are asleep have come after we’ve already had sex that night, or when we have been drinking alcohol. Both of these things seem to make things easier. To date we haven’t experimented with drugs for somnophilic purposes, but it does seem popular with others, and don’t rule it out!
I should also state here that although I refer to the partner as being asleep, a lot of times it is feigned sleep. This is either because they have woken up during or by the act and decided to play along, or they were never asleep in the first place.
I’ll never forget the first time my girlfriend told me she’d pretended to be asleep. Knowing she does this doesn’t detract from the experience for me or her.
I have a current quest to find any pornography that caters to somnophiles. There are several sites which are good – but at the same time it is obvious that they are faking the sleep. Typically, rather than the really slow and sensual way it would unfold in real life, these descend into the usual pounding seen in 99% of porn. Oh well…
If any of you know of any amateur videos hosted anywhere I would be most grateful.
If you want a taster of what is currently available, check out these sites (put your own www and .com either side of the name):
sleepassault – does what it says on the tin!
Sleepcreep – one of the originals sites.
nightinvasion – lots of night cam videos.
lesbianassault – lesbian sleepy sex!
sleepsins – turning the tables with the man being the one asleep.
room213 – a new one to me, but seems good.
These are all pay sites, but I’m sure most files can be found through torrents or free online without you having to spend your hard-earned cash on membership fees.
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